Cheating

I have recently wanted to speak about cheating in relationships. I never touched on the topic because its either you stay with the person or you leave. But it is deeper than that. I know from experience because I’ve been cheated on in the past, as well as many of you reading this. Or maybe you’ve been the one who has cheated.

Cheating has become so normalized as if people expect you to stay if someone cheats on you like it isn’t that big of a deal cause so many people do it. But that’s not really the case because it is a BIG deal. It isn’t apart of the ups and downs in a relationship, its more of a deal breaker.

In my past relationships I’ve been cheated on over and over again and still took them back. I use to to question myself as if I wasn’t enough and my insecurities would eat away at me. Even though I told them I had forgiven them, deep down I knew that was a lie. Every girl that would walk by I started to compare myself to especially if I thought my ex was checking her out. I no longer felt comfortable in my own skin and just didn’t feel like myself anymore. I kept questioning them about things and there was no trust there anymore. I know many women who have felt this way and still stayed. But I knew enough was enough and what I had to offer was more than enough. Even me bringing up the past and constantly accusing someone I chose to give another chance to wasn’t healthy. I learned that if it was to ever happen to me again I would just leave.

For some relationships cheating may happen and he or she may take them back but I feel you only should only take them back if you truly feel they won’t do it again. There has to be a change for the relationship to work. In addition if you take them back you can’t keep putting them down for what they did now that you have forgiven them. Its really all up to what you can put up with and I personally cannot deal with that. People have different views of staying no matter how many times a person cheats and to each their own. But if a person wants you and only you, it doesn’t matter if a handsome man or a beautiful woman walks by, they won’t act on that because they are with whom they want to be with and are committed. There are other deal breakers other than cheating but I’ll get to those topics in a future blog post.

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