Show Me Your Ugly

Are you tired of investing time in relationships that don’t lead to anything lasting?

Here’s a thought: Show me your “ugly” from the start. I’m not talking about physical imperfections, but rather your true self—unfiltered and genuine. No more facades or pretending to be who you think others want you to be.

When you reveal your authentic self upfront, you give others the chance to accept you as you are or move on. This honesty saves time and helps prevent the disappointment of discovering unaligned values later on. It’s far better to know from the beginning how someone navigates the world and handles challenges, rather than being blindsided later. By being straightforward and embracing your imperfections, you set the stage for deeper, more meaningful connections. If someone can’t accept you at your most genuine, they’re likely not the right match. And if you can’t accept them, it’s better to know sooner rather than later.

Honestly, I was taken aback when someone showed me their "ugly" immediately . It was a take-it-or-leave-it situation, and I wasn’t sure if I was ready for the challenge. My initial thought was, "Does it really have to be so challenging?" As I got to know this person better and understood the origins of their traits, my feelings for them grew. It was a bittersweet experience because, deep down, I knew I deserved better than how I was being treated. I didn’t see it as a waste of time, though; I was aware of what I was getting into from the beginning.

Be true to yourself from the start. It’s the best way to build lasting, authentic relationships and avoid the “ick” factor of unexpected surprises down the line.