Shortcomings

To progress in life, you have to be real with yourself, mainly in the areas you are lacking in. Areas you expect the person you’re dating to be capable in. Many of us want what we give and there’s nothing wrong with that. But many of us also expect a person to be delivered on a silver platter when we don’t even have the table to sit the silver platter on.

A lot of people are ego driven and they know that they can’t give you what you want and they know they may not even want to give it to you but they like the idea of you chasing them. They’ll give you little by little to make you think you may get what you want from them, knowing that they have no plans to follow through. We know when we meet someone who’s going to get that side of us that’s loyal and puts in effort. So, when someone isn’t giving us the same, it’s a tough reality.

Our ego may kick in like “what the hell, I’m a great opportunity for you” but it doesn’t work that way. Don’t try to take it too personal because sometimes it just depends on what they have going on in their life. They may be figuring themselves out and where they’re going to be in the next five years, they aren’t focused on being tied down or they just aren’t being real about their intentions. All of which showed their lack of transparency with you in the first place. Don’t think because of their actions there might be something wrong with you. They just weren’t realistic about who they were which trickled down onto you. When you aren’t real with yourself when dating it can affect you and the person you’re dealing with.

But like I said it depends, because it could be something with you. If you find yourself attracting the same person over and over and over again, you’ve got to look in the mirror and figure out what qualities you possess that you need to work on or get rid of cause you keep attracting the same type of person. Be real about what your shortcomings are. You may have some unhealed trauma going on that you haven’t addressed it. Work on healing, fixing what you’re lacking in and figure out where you see yourself down the line so you don’t confuse the person you want to pursue or that’s trying to pursue you.