Love Life

You know when your friends ask “so, how’s your love life?’ and the response is one of the following; “just started talking to someone”, “their energy is everything”, “they’re acting different now”, “it’s a joke”, “its quiet for them” or “focusing on myself.” There are always different answers because our love lives are constantly changing. I enjoy having conversations about dating, relationships, etc., because we learn about the different aspects of relationships when dealing with other people. To have another person’s perspective outside of your own is an asset, especially if you learn a better way of viewing a situation.

In these conversations you also learn about yourself and what you bring to the table while dating. You hear the good things and not so nice things about yourself when getting feedback from your friends. While getting advice from them I learned about myself outside of just dating in general. Of course I’ve had lessons from the people I’ve dated but when I circle back to speak on it, it’s like looking from the outside in. I notice the differences in each situation, especially where I went wrong. I’d been figuring out who I was and what I wanted and it felt good to come out of a situation not just smarter but better. You get to a point when you know after the first conversation or so with someone if there’s potential or not. Cause’ when you know what you want, you don’t waste your time.

To all the couples, your relationships are ever changing. There’s going to be obstacles that come your way and new things you’ll learn about each other. But I feel as long as you love each other the same or more after any issue that’s what matters. Many people just want what they give. I just hope people with good intentions find people with good intentions.

I believe by speaking about your love life with people you confide in helps you reflect on your relationships as I said in the beginning. It’s a good tactic to look from the outside in on who you were at the time and who you were dating. What you take from past relationships is applied to the next person you date. Becoming a better version of yourself helps you become a better partner.