Finding Closure

There are different ways to find closure. Whether it’s finding it within yourself or wanting to speak with the person you want closure from. In my experience I’ve found closure within myself more than getting it from the other person. It was hard, but I felt like I came out stronger because of it, and realized that sometimes you only need you to close a chapter in your life. On the other hand if things end kind of messy between you and someone and you both want answers to why it ended or the reasoning for ending the relationship, possibly a conversation needs to be had.

If you’re the one giving the closure, it can be hard taking responsibility for your actions and giving honest reasons for the demise of the relationship. It can be hard when you know this person most likely cares about you a lot. In doing this you may discover aspects of yourself that you have ignored before and give yourself closure in the process. Being honest about the relationship can possibly end the relationship peacefully.

Now, if you’re the one seeking closure you have to understand that the conversation you want may not be things you want to hear but may be things you need to hear. By knowing what you hadn’t known before it will give you more of an understanding coming from their perspective of the relationship. This can also result in a peaceful parting of ways. In other situations the person can refuse to give you closure, which is hurtful, but you just have to move on and accept that, that within itself is a kind of closure. You can’t waste your time and wait for someone to give you a reason of why they moved a certain way. Them not wanting to explain themselves to you actually pretty much validates all you need to know. Something I’ve told myself in the past is that some things play out exactly the way they are meant to. Thinking of my past situations this way has helped me heal and keep foremost in my mind that I deserve better and I deserve more. It will hurt for a little while but not forever. Even if you have to write down what you want to say or how you feel, like I do when writing my poetry; or whatever helps you express your feelings just to get it out. Whatever the method, if it helps you to keep it moving and gives you closure then cheers to that.