Story Time: Chapter 2

This story is about one of my best friends and her ex boyfriend. They were dating on and off for 11 years, since 8thgrade. I always applauded her for staying in it that long because I’ve never had a relationship longer then 2 years, if that. But I feel the longer you are with someone the harder it is to walk away especially if you’ve known each other for that many years.

In their relationship there was a lot of cheating throughout the years, which never stopped. It was the same pattern over and over again. He would push her away, act like she did something wrong, and then proceed to do whatever he wanted. When he felt good and ready to get back with her and apologize, she was ready to take him back. This pattern went on for years; on top of that his mother was rude to her constantly throughout all of this. Calling her out her name and being disrespectful to her family. I told her I don’t know how she does it but he would stand up for her somewhat when his mother would say something out of line. I didn’t feel like it was enough for her to stay. I told her that she doesn’t know what its like to be with someone that will treat her right cause she’s only been with him, and only knows his personality. She agreed but didn’t think she was settling cause she’s been with him for so long. SO about two months ago he started acting weird with her, you know “guilty conscience” and tells her out of the blue he’s not happy with his life right now. He then started bringing up things he was mad at her for in the past (about 2 years ago in the past). It’s like he was trying to find a reason to be mad and not be with her, instead of just being honest and telling her how he truly felt. He even hit up a guy that tried talking to her in the past and told him to hit her up just to set her up. (That’s some wild ish smh)

Anyway, my intuition told me he was cheating on her again, and I told her this. I also said to her I could be wrong and maybe he just needs time alone, but I feel that if you are with someone in a relationship, especially for 11 years they should be the one you lean on and not push away. Even her mother and her grandmother told her he was dealing with someone else. Low and behold after a while of accusing her of stuff from the past and setting her up he finally told her there was someone else. He tried to play if off like he wasn’t dealing with her while they were together but we both know he was. He told her that this new girl made him happy and he hadn’t felt like that in a long time. He went on to say out of the 11 years they’ve been together only 3 of them were good.

Him telling her that even broke my heart because I know that had to be tough to hear. But it helped her in the long run to put herself first for the first time. It showed her not to settle for less than what she deserved, she didn’t know her worth because she let someone else decide it for her.

Sometimes it takes years for a person to realize they need to love themselves first. I know now she will take this time for herself to love herself more and attract what is good for her.

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