Better not Bitter

I was the type to take a guy back and still complain about what he had done. Anything that reminded me of his cheating, lies and disrespect would cause me to bring up the past. I would snap out because I would be reminded of the heartache constantly. I was wrong to keep bringing up the past because I made the choice to take him back. Since I had taken him back I should not have continued to bring up what he had done wrong while he was trying to make it right. I also feel by doing this I pushed him away more as he was trying to pull me closer. By doing this I was constantly punishing myself and making the relationship worse. I’ve learned that when you decide to take someone back or when giving them a second chance you can’t continue to bring up what they did wrong. It will tear them down to the point where they may stop trying. This will bring more issues to the relationship, adding more things to work on. When doing that your living in the past and not working on making anything better for your relationship. If that is the case then leave him or her. But if you decide to go back then don’t bring the negativity back into the relationship, especially if the one who did wrong is sorry and trying to change for you. And I’m not saying forget what they did but truly forgive so you can try to make it work for the better and not become bitter.