<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Finding My Nia]]></title><description><![CDATA[Finding My Nia is about purposeful living, self-discovery, nurturing relationships, and maintaining mental well-being through it's articles.]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/blog-1</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Wed, 13 May 2026 18:33:27 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.findingmynia.com/zh/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[When “Better” Isn’t Enough]]></title><description><![CDATA[Starting a new relationship often feels like a fresh start. When your new partner doesn’t show the toxic traits your ex had, it’s easy to think everything is perfect. But sometimes, the absence of toxicity isn’t the presence of alignment. When you’ve experienced unhealthy relationships, your standards can quietly shift. What once felt like the bare minimum can start to feel like progress. You’re not ignoring red flags - you’ve just grown used to less. So when someone shows up a little more,...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/when-better-isn-t-enough</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69bd4f61f20a14d188122475</guid><pubDate>Fri, 10 Apr 2026 13:30:08 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Leading by Example]]></title><description><![CDATA[You don’t need a title, a platform, or even a shared belief system to lead. You lead every day by how you move through the world - how you speak to people, how you treat those who can’t do anything for you and how you handle moments when no one is watching. Even without religion, morals matter. These are the quiet compasses that guide our decisions when life gets messy. Leading by example looks like choosing honesty over convenience, kindness over ego and accountability over excuses. It’s...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/leading-by-example</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6988b56c68f63e9f23a0e1c4</guid><pubDate>Fri, 13 Mar 2026 17:00:24 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Love That Covers, Not Competes]]></title><description><![CDATA[I recently listened to an episode of Relationshi t with Kamie Crawford , featuring Serena Page from Love Island , where she shared why she ended a relationship rooted in jealousy and competition. As I listened, I realized how much I could relate. I’ve been in that position before, dating someone who quietly struggled with my growth and achievements. What stood out to me most was the reminder that jealousy doesn’t usually start loud. It starts small with comment here, a mood shift there. A...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/love-that-covers-not-competes</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69828050889819a51f0820ef</guid><pubDate>Fri, 13 Feb 2026 15:45:08 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Faith or Performance]]></title><description><![CDATA[As I step into 2026, this question has been sitting with me quietly but firmly: Is my faith rooted in relationship, or is it becoming performance? An ex once said something that stuck with me. He told me he didn’t see me moving in the way I speak about on my blog. The truth is, he wouldn’t. He wasn’t around me enough to know my prayer life, my obedience, or the private ways I wrestle with God. And yet, his words still gave me pause, not because they were a full picture of my faith, but...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/faith-or-performance</link><guid isPermaLink="false">695a920cfd3c231053992d49</guid><pubDate>Sun, 11 Jan 2026 15:23:13 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Surrendering Every Day]]></title><description><![CDATA[As we step closer to 2026, I’ve been thinking a lot about what it really means to surrender - not once, not at midnight on December 31st, but every single day. When I started Finding My Nia , it was because I knew there were people like me: people who want to grow, who don’t want to be who they were yesterday, who feel the pull toward a life of purpose. My name means purpose, and this space has always been about choosing that purpose intentionally, with God at the center. This year, my blog...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/surrendering-every-day</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6935cfb821dbaf583f8c847c</guid><pubDate>Sun, 21 Dec 2025 17:00:25 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Faithful in the Fields]]></title><description><![CDATA[I recently watched Tyler Perry’s Ruth and Boaz  on Netflix, and it made be go back to the Bible to reread their story. It reminded me how faithfulness, even in quiet seasons, can lead us right into God’s perfect timing. Ruth’s story doesn’t begin in abundance; it begins in loss. She left everything she knew to follow Naomi back to Bethlehem, not knowing what waited ahead. What moves me most is her trust in the middle of uncertainty. She didn’t know what her future held, but she knew Who was...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/faithful-in-the-fields</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69126d98d588c50c0e61885f</guid><pubDate>Sun, 16 Nov 2025 15:00:49 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[When Walking Away Was Obedience]]></title><description><![CDATA[There was a time when I believed leaving a relationship meant I had failed. I thought that staying, no matter how painful, was proof of...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/when-walking-away-was-obedience</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68e6f9f515335a80a8286c9f</guid><pubDate>Sun, 19 Oct 2025 16:34:05 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Discernment in the In-Between]]></title><description><![CDATA[Have you ever felt like your heart was being pulled in two directions? One path feels clear, steady, and aligned with God’s Word, a true...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/discernment-in-the-in-between</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68be203c3a66668fb16d4623</guid><pubDate>Sun, 14 Sep 2025 18:22:03 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Covered &#38; Called: A Reflection on Submissive Love]]></title><description><![CDATA[In a world where independence is often seen as the ultimate badge of honor, I’ve found myself desiring something countercultural: a life...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/covered-called-a-reflection-on-submissive-love</link><guid isPermaLink="false">688a8d942f03ce8f80d9e57d</guid><pubDate>Sun, 17 Aug 2025 16:00:17 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[This Season's About Soft Starts ]]></title><description><![CDATA[I've been learning that everything doesn’t have to begin with a bang. Not every season needs to be loud, productive, or even fully...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/this-season-s-about-soft-starts</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68711e6427eef2b833aaac78</guid><pubDate>Sun, 13 Jul 2025 16:22:08 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Being Content]]></title><description><![CDATA[I’ve found peace in whatever life throws my way, not because everything is perfect, but because I know I’m not walking through it alone....]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/being-content</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68274b8f9fbe9de8f04c7831</guid><pubDate>Sun, 15 Jun 2025 18:22:05 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[When Optimism Meets Reality]]></title><description><![CDATA[I thought I’d found the one. During my home search, a townhome listing caught my eye: exposed brick in the kitchen, a spacious patio, two...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/when-optimism-meets-reality</link><guid isPermaLink="false">675d224401f95e6e98a1eea2</guid><pubDate>Sun, 11 May 2025 18:24:03 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Faith Isn’t a Task - It’s a Transformation]]></title><description><![CDATA[There comes a quiet moment, often unexpected, when you realize that knowing God’s Word isn’t the same as living it. You can believe, pray, and love God deeply… and still not be applying His truth to every part of your life. But faith was never meant to be compartmentalized. Somewhere between goals, growth, and good intentions, we’re reminded: faith isn’t about checking boxes. It’s about transformation. It’s about relationship. It’s about surrender. A shift happens when you stop keeping God in...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/faith-isn-t-a-task-it-s-a-transformation</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67fae1954d9495e7a68fdd3a</guid><pubDate>Sun, 20 Apr 2025 19:00:05 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Building a Relationship on God’s Foundation]]></title><description><![CDATA[Relationships are meant to be built on something solid - something that doesn’t waver with emotions, circumstances, or personal fears....]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/building-a-relationship-on-god-s-foundation</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67d700e97f6f9dfc82726766</guid><pubDate>Sun, 23 Mar 2025 18:22:06 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[5 Essential Habits to Embrace ]]></title><description><![CDATA[As we stepped into 2025, it's been the perfect time to reflect on our goals and establish habits that will set the tone for a successful...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/5-essential-habits-to-embrace</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67ac3806b062bfa064ed4d42</guid><pubDate>Sun, 16 Feb 2025 19:45:08 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Finding Strength in Hebrews 13:1-8]]></title><description><![CDATA[God calls us to love one another deeply and unconditionally. Hebrews 13:1-8 reminds us that our ultimate reliance should not be on people...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/finding-strength-in-hebrews-13-1-8</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67314494b11237c1c1851e7a</guid><pubDate>Sun, 19 Jan 2025 23:00:07 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Enlightening: My Own Renaissance]]></title><description><![CDATA[Stepping into this new chapter of my life feels like entering a whole new era—a personal renaissance. It’s as if I’ve been reborn. With...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/enlightening-my-own-renaissance</link><guid isPermaLink="false">675345a7889501c07c401eb4</guid><pubDate>Mon, 23 Dec 2024 00:24:02 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Emotional Exhaustion]]></title><description><![CDATA[The only one you truly answer to is your maker. I remind myself of this whenever life’s tests come my way. No matter what we face, God is...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/emotional-exhaustion</link><guid isPermaLink="false">672985c32b4c0e7284ace007</guid><pubDate>Sun, 17 Nov 2024 20:24:08 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why God ?!]]></title><description><![CDATA[I often catch myself thinking about this when I hit a tough spot and can't figure out why things are happening the way they are. It feels...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/why-god</link><guid isPermaLink="false">663435045c6a52c9142d456d</guid><pubDate>Sun, 20 Oct 2024 19:00:12 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Show Me Your Ugly]]></title><description><![CDATA[Are you tired of investing time in relationships that don’t lead to anything lasting? Here’s a thought: Show me your “ugly” from the...]]></description><link>https://www.findingmynia.com/post/show-me-your-ugly</link><guid isPermaLink="false">666f494154d5821a083050d9</guid><pubDate>Sun, 15 Sep 2024 18:24:04 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Nia Alexa</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>